Dear Mrs Wife,
I read your post today in the morning and it put me off for various
reasons. Before I say something I am sympathetic to you if you feel you are
homeless..... But I would like to ask you whose home is it then in your post
????????
You every single time stated that your parents house and in laws house
when you mentioned in your post.... and as per my understanding, the words
"parents and in laws" include both mother and father.... so please
explain to me first whose house do you feel is it back at your own and for that
matter even at ur in laws place???? is it only your mother's or your father's
or ur in-law mother's or your in-law father's !!!!!!! No, it is neither of just
one alone !!! It is always gonna be a mutual nourishment of a mother and a
father who made it home... !!
Meanwhile you try to understand what I am asking here and before you try
to think deep about this thought..... I would like to share my opinion about
the situation you have created with your post !!! When I read it, I allowed
notification for the post so that I could see if I am the only one feeling
differently or should I say optimistically !! to my surprise only 2 ladies
backed me up and rest all were like "yes its true that I feel the
same".... "oh yes... this is also my situation even after 10 years of
marriage" ..... "every girl goes through this situation in India, we
should fight back"..... and more than your post it was these responses
that compelled me to write this out as I just could not take this negative
aspect of our society !!!
I was wondering.... why every single woman wrote ONLY about THEIR
IN-LAWS disgust/cruelty while they were commenting on your post. Why did they
not feel the need to write the same story about THEIR OWN PARENTS !! Am I the
only one sensing Baised nature of daughters here now ????? DISGUST !!
Have u ever seen or questioned or guided how ur parents treat YOU as
their daughter and ur "SISTER-IN-LAW" as just there daughter(is it?)
-in-law !!...... because if it is the story of every single girl as everyone is
boasting in the comments section of your post then I am sure every parent
should be humiliated to create these differences...neither the parents of
daughters should be spared..... !!!!
The luxuries that you have mentioned in your post are not lived by all
the daughters... some daughters even obey their own parents.... just because
you could sleep until late at your home does not mean that every daughter get
this treatment and i feel hurt when you refer these things to luxuries
!!!
I am alarmed and almost disheartened to see not even one lady said
something "OTHERWISE" in context to the post !! I have my parents and
I have my in laws. I ma married for more than 3 years now and I am working. It
was my father who taught me to "give respect and gain love" at my in
laws place, it was my mother who taught me that you are going to marry a SON of
a "MOTHER"... don't let that mother feel left out... because she is a
mother and she will always love her child more than anything else... that's the
beauty of a mother (whether she has a son or a daughter) just like my own
mother... I know she cannot love anything else in the world more than me and my
siblings and why on earth anybody would take this one damn pure love away from
a mother !! My husband gets his love from his parents and I get my own share
from HIS parents and same is the case with my parents for me and my husband and I am very happy because I truly don't judge their love!!
Thats HUMAN NATURE/BLOOD RELATIONS !! Come on people get in the shoes and
relate !! Nurture your relations with your in laws... make them feel as they
are your own parents... respect them, love them, nurture them and make them feel
that his son is in safe hands.
The solution is to create awareness among your own parents about
accepting daughter-in-law well enough and not just being biased for their own
daughters.... I DO BELIEVE there are some who are terribly screwed by their in
laws and these daughter-in-laws should fight back if they are facing
torture/violence/abuse and I totally sympathise with them but that does
not mean the WHOLE COMMUNITY CAN BE QUESTIONED !!
There are good in laws and good daughter in laws who knows the value of
love and it is always a mutual nourishment... I hold nothing against
anyone but will request to look around the positivity.... you have got 2 HOMES
my darling !! and that's the beauty of marriage if one can FEEL and Spread !!
